Customs and saman ki list for different events in wedding

Lagan Likhai Bhaat Ki through Pandit Ji with Parivar kay naam

 Pandit whom you have booked for wedding will write Lagan Patrika which will be taken to brother’s place at (or Mama's of the boy or girl) the time of Bhat

 December 2013: Bhat

1.     Bhat ki Lagan and same should be handover to bhabhi after reaching home. (Bhabhi will keep that lagan in her mandir of the house.  This is called a very pavitr (pure) thing.

2.     Seval karna at the Gate (In seval a tilak ceremony is done at the gate and some water from the lota is poured on both side of the entrance gate of the house.)

3.     Jode (Cloth) Sab kay

4.     Gifts for all the kids.  In this Bhatan do tilak and give gifts to each and every one who so ever is younger in the family like all kids from the Bhatai side and their guest's)

5.     Gola Jodi

6.     Envelopes

7.     Sweet Box 2 KG or whatever is your wish)

8.     Namkeen

9.     Aartay ki thali

10. Kalava Jodi

11. Golay

12. Nariyal

13. Roli / Rice

14. 6 piece Wool

15. Bhaat kay gola

16. 200 Gms Mishri

(here you can book a geeton wali, who can sing all the bhat and occasion's geet).

  

 Bhat Lena

 ·         Pitro kay Envelope( For all Pitro of the family) / Kurta Payjama, Dhoti Kurta, Saree Blouse

·         Moong Rice Ghee Sugar  2 1/2 Kgs. each

·         Bhaat Lena

·         Mehandi

·         Darwaja par Saree / odni pehanna by brother

·         2 Saree

·         Tika Karna Bhai Bhabhi kay

·         Milni

·         Tika all Kids

·         Groom and his all brother sister's Jode (Clothes) Groom will wear the same clothes which is mama gives him on this occassion and the same safa with kalgi

·         Sweets

·         Dinner

Haldat / Thapa

·         To put Thapa

·         4 Bartan, Moong, Rice, Salt, Flour, Ghee 2 1/2 Kg each will be kept in front of thapa

·         4 Saree  (All this things what we put in front of thapa is given to Bua or sister (It is called Dhyani)

·         Pooja ka Aarta

·         Puja ki Thali, Roli Rice, Kalava

·         7 Suhagin ko Dori Bandhegi,

·         Bindi Lagegi,

·         Dori Bandhegi

·         Haldat ka Saman

·         Haldat ki Per Padai / Envelope / Mummy ki bhi Per Padai

·         Per ki Padai Nutan Bhabhi, Badi Bhabhi, Bhabhi ji, Kiran, Mummy

·         Silver Coin

·         Dholak Puja Naeen Dwara

·         Okhal Musal

·         Namak chooanay ki chaabi

 

 

Thapay aagay ka saman:

·         7 Suhagino ko dori bandhegi

·         Bindi Lagegi

·         4 Barthan

·         2 ½ Kg Moong Sabut

·         2 ½ Kg Rice

·         Jau

·         Ghee

·         Gud ki bhaili

·         1 Kg Salt

·         100 Gms Urad Dal ki Pitthi

·         2 kalava

·         Haldat ki thaili main rupees

·         1 Saree Vane Ki and us par 1 gola Jodi and rupees

·         Kalava ki Jodi

·         Haldat ki bangles

·         Thapa

·         Pidi, Okhal, Musli, Chakki

·         2 Saree – Thape aagay ki

·         Sabki Nausat ki churia bangles

·         2 dhoti / or 1 ½ tiyal

 

 

Mehandi / Ladies Sangeet: with High Tea Snacks / Dinner

5^th December 2013

 

Telvan: 9:30 am

 

·         Bedsheet, Pattra baithnay ke liyey,

·         12 Pale

·         Roli

·         Mehandi

·         Sarso Oil

·         Dahi

·         Besan

·         Rice

·         Sweets

·         Grass

·         Haldi / Ubtan

·         Silbatta

·         Chowki

·         1 chanderi Saree : Pink for Mada Saree

·         Gathjode ki Saree nandoi kay dwara

·         Kamarband Pocket wala

·         Dhoti

·         Batashay

·         Haldi ki gaanth

o   7 Suhaginay tel lagakar Ubtan malna and Nahana

o   Aarta Karkay Paan khilayengi

o   Kangna Baandhnay par dhyani ki aartay ki thali mein rupees rakhna

Groom to take Bath

·         Groom’s cloth New

·         Sweets

Navgrah Puja

·         Pandit ji for puja

·         Thal with Roli, Rice, haar phool, fruits, Paan ka Bida, 100 Puri, 100 piece Meetha, Pale 15, 11 Rupees 9 jagah.

Manda Bandhna

·         Manda ka envelope to brother in law / Nandoi

·         Mande ki moti dori

·         Kangana Bandhan Pandit ji dwara

 

 

Ghurchari ki Puja:

·         Puja ka thal: Roli Chawal, Kalava, Haar Phool

·         Jaimala

·         Safa

·         Kalgi

·         Groom’s ka khandani Har or whatever you wish to

·         Doodh Bakshwai

·         Lagam Pakrai: to all brother in law and son in law

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Kajal Lagwai

·         To all Bhabhi of the groom

 

Ghurchari ki Saree or envelops:

·         To all sisters or cousins of groom

 

Gathjode Mein:

·         Nukti  ke Laddu

·         Silver Nariyal

·         Rupees

·         Patte Mein Bandhnay kay liye

·          

Dalle Ka Sanduk which will be opened at the time of phere

·         Anjalay ke Thaili: (Mewa, Makhana,  Sikka, Rupees: Approximately for 1100 Rupees kay)

·         Mukut

·         Jewellery Set

·         Silver Coil for Sindoor

·         Chanchi ki Saree / Damad ko Envelope saree udaney kay liye

·         2 Katori with oil– Moohn dekhnay kay liye

·         Haar

·         500 Gms Sukha Dhaniya (for Hiteshi’s  mother by PKG)

·         Seven Jagah Minsai

·         Sir Goonthi kay liye Make up Saman

Kangna

·         Ring from boy's side for ring playing at the wedding venue

·         Chhand from Groom

Vida

·         To get down from the Car

·         Neg vida laanay wale ko

·         Pani ka lota with aam ki tehni

·         Darwaja par bar rukai Daughters and sisters

·         Aartay ka thal

·         Seven jaah Rice ki deri with 7 jagah Mathri on white sheet

·         Ghar Par vida  Aanay per moonh meetha karana

·         bride dwara paron padai with envelope to all elder

·         Nashta / Tea

·         7 – 7 Suhal 14 jagah

·         2 ½ Rice

·         Moonh Dikhai

·         Pairo chuhai

Please forgive me if you find any mistakes.  These are just ideas, must check in your family with some elderly lady.  Every family has different customs.

   

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