Program: Planning
for the Wedding – Dates and Time fixing
This is just a template; you can change as per your choice or customs.
1st Dec 2013 – Sunday: 6:00 pm - Sunderkand Path - In
general, we start everything with puja and that too with Ganapati Pooja
2nd Dec 2013 - Monday: 7:00 pm – Engagement:
Naeen for singing traditional songs
3rd Dec 2013 – Tuesday: 6:00
pm – Bhat (At name of the place) - Geet Wali/Naeen for singing traditional songs
· Decide name of the person you want to invite for this Bhat ceremony. In general, these are the names of very close family. Tradition is that, mother of the boy or girl goes to his brother's place to invite them along with their all-close family to come for the wedding.
4th Dec 2013: Wednesday: 2:00 pm - Ladies Sangeet- Bhat, Mehandi, Haldat / Thapa: Naeen / Geeto Wali for singing of songs. She really creates a ghar mein shadi wala mahol. Moreover, now a days no body in the family knows traditional songs of different occasions of the wedding, so better to have these ones.
5th Dec 2013: Thursday: 9:30 am Telvan
10:30 am Navgrah
Puja
Manda Garai
Kangana
04.30 pm Ghurchari Puja
Kajal
Lagai
Barat
Prasthan
Chana
dal/Parat
6th Dec 2013: Friday - Message of Arrival: Who first brings the message to the family that bride has come, may be devar or cousins, some shagun is given to them. Shagun for Driver is also to give.
Darwaja Rukai:
In Dasrwaja Rukai bua or sisters do this rasam. Some money or gifts are
given to them.
·
Aarta, Lota with aam kay
Pattay: Ater Darwaja rukai mother-in-law do aarta of the groom and bride and
some water is dropped on both side of the darwaja. And bride then put
hands print with Haldi or roli on the gate of the house.
White Bed Sheet, Rice, Mathri, Diya – Mooh
Dikhai, Pair Chuai:
·
After this bride enters in the
house, in general a white bed sheet is spread on the earth and seven packets of
each of rice, mathari, on both the side of the bed sheet and then bride enters
the house touching it with her foot each without touching anything else, she
has to enter in the house.
· In some families, one put kalash filled with rice and a parat filled with roli water. In that case bride enter the house after hitting kalash and after putting her put foot in partat. Then moonh (face) dikhai rasam is performed. At first this rasam is performed by mother-in-law. She saw bride’s face in the light of diya and give her some gift and after this all-family members see the face of the bride and give their gifts to her.
Then after taking some rest and bath, some games
are played like rings to find in the water, Stick wrapped in flowers se
khelana. It is called OOdey – Boodey game.
Then it is a custom, younger
brother of the boy or to who is younger in the family sits in the god (lap) of
bhabhi.
Next day after having Bath, to add in Jaat like in
our family it is done in Kalka Ji mandir. You can carry Halwa Puri, chana
from the home or can be prepared at the mandir itself. Then put bhog to
Kalka ji Ma in the temple and then feed seven girls and one boy and then you
all can have rest of the food.
After reaching home bride put her hands in five
things i.e. Kanji, Aata, Ghee, Sugar. Rice.
Kadi Chawal is served this day as food.
After this some dance Sangeet
program is done and bride also participate in this.
Pag Phera: Brother to come in the evening for Pag phere,
Bride goes with her brother in
new saree gifted by her mother in law.
6th Dec 2013 Evening: Bhatai Vidai - In this tika is done to all and 5 Kgs Sweets, Mathri (This is called dhalla) and sarees from the dhalle ke sanduk se are given to Bhabhi and girls.
Dhyani Vidai - In this tika is done to all and 5 Kgs Sweets, Mathri (This is called dhalla) and sarees from the dhalle ke sanduk se are given to sister and Bua. Also the tika with envelop will be done to brother--n-law or son-in-law.
I have just mentioned
here whatever is in my knowledge. You must check whatever is done in your
family, so it can variant.
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